Consent & Anti-Discrimination Policies
Updated: Jul 10, 2022
Please see our CONSENT & ANTI-DISCRIMINATION POLICIES below.
By attending a SoCal Creatures event, you are confirming that you read, understand, and agree to everything in this document.
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This is a safe space for individuals of all genders, sexualities, ethnicities, experience levels, play styles, and other intersections of identity. Behavior that stereotypes, discriminates against, or harms community members will not be tolerated
This includes racism, non-consensual fetishization, hypersexualization, stereotyping, micro-aggressions, transphobia, homophobia, intentional misgendering, misogyny, ableism, fatphobia, bullying, harassment, blackmail, coercion, intimidation, and defamation.
If you witness someone who expresses any of the above, please inform someone on the SoCal Creatures Leadership Team immediately.
Never assume pronouns or identity if not publicized by the individual - ASK!
Educate yourself on language, actions, and items that may be appropriative and/or harmful if used by you so you can avoid them.
Kink is political! It is important to research the political backgrounds and implications of our play in order to adhere to Risk-Aware and Personal Responsibility-Informed kink practices.
Privilege looks different for everyone. It is our responsibility to do the work to understand our privileges and how they affect the ways we exist in kink spaces in order to contribute to a safer community space.
Do not touch people or personal property without their permission.
Anyone can withdraw consent, make a nonverbal safe sign or use the universal safeword “Red,” at any time. Once consent is withdrawn, the activity must stop immediately. You must agree how to stop anything at any time prior to the scene.
Consent may be given verbally or nonverbally within the pet play space. Verbal consent looks like an enthusiastic “Yes.” Non-verbal consent looks similar to that of biological animals, and is covered in our pre-event Orientation. If unsure, verbal consent is always best.
Don’t re-negotiate in the middle of your scene unless it is to reject activities that were previously agreed to. A person who is in headspace may not be able to give informed consent even if they agree or don’t protest in the heat of the moment.
Regardless of role, we are equals. Negotiate as equals before either person assumes a role.
Ask and negotiate before using pet names/titles or engaging in verbal role play. For example, don’t call someone “Mistress” or “slave” or any other role-play word unless you’ve asked for permission.
Each person must make sure everyone has the mental and emotional capacity to give informed consent.
Be aware of any pre-existing social power imbalances that may exist between you and the person you are negotiating with (new vs experienced, gender-related, race-related, assertive vs shy, etc) so that you can ensure that these imbalances are not negatively impacting your negotiation.
If the person you wish to play with has someone whose consent is required before they can engage in kink or sexual activities, ensure that you have their enthusiastic consent for all details of the scene.
Negotiate the scope of your scene prior to the activities. The bottom must give verbal consent to all types of touch, including but not limited to sexual touch, before the scene begins.
The top is legally responsible for stopping the activities at any suggestion that the bottom has withdrawn consent. The bottom is ethically responsible for being clear and unequivocal when withdrawing consent.
Anonymity and discretion is essential within BDSM/kink spaces. Attempts to "dox" or "out" someone will not be tolerated.
Ask for consent before following or interacting with someone on social media.
If you experience or witness a consent incident, tell a Dungeon Monitor or clearly marked delegate of the event (with a glowing red wristband) immediately. Please also report if you think someone is not able to consent. Violation of this consent policy may result in expulsion from the event or group. No one is exempt from the rules.