The pet play lifestyle is full of so many voices that make it unique and vibrant. To showcase this, every month we will be shining the spotlight on a particular human animal or Handler in our community. Let's hear what makes every pet player special!
This April, we're shining the spotlight on one of our most dedicated volunteers. A diligent Dungeon Monitor and "Trash Panda" who keeps all our pets safe, they're truly a beacon in our community, and we could not be more thankful for them...
OUTIS!
Please introduce yourself and how you identify in pet play.
Hi there! My name is Outis (pronounced Otis), though I go by Aedan sometimes. My pronouns are they/them. I've been in the kink community for what will be a year at the end of this month. I am a switch, and usually play as either a goblin, a raccoon, or a Handler!
How did you first get into pet play?
When I first started in the community here, I was invited to go to a mosh in June 2019. I wasn't really certain what I was getting into at first, but I haven't looked back! It's certainly been a bit of a challenge figuring out what my pet headspace is, since I didn't fit into the species I typically saw at events.
What do you enjoy most about pet play?
My favorite part of pet play, honestly, is the trust. Between Handler and pet, and between pets. Everyone understands boundaries, and tries to be as affectionate and welcoming as possible within those boundaries!
What puts you into your headspace?
Mainly being around other pets. I am still exploring and learning about my pet play headspaces, and developing them. I already live my life very like a goblin anyway, so it's mainly a matter of letting go and fully diving into it. All this will come with time, of course!
If you're comfortable sharing, what advice do you have for other neurodivergent folx in pet play?
My advice for neurodivergent folx getting into pet play is two part: Embrace what makes you you, but also listen to your body and know your limits.
As someone with Autism (and various comorbidities therein), I am painfully aware both how NDs are regarded in the world, and in the BDSM community. I can honestly say, though, that the pet play community has been the most welcoming group I have been a part of.
It's easy to get swept up in it, but it's important to be realistic about your limits. Your fellow pets don't want you to overexert yourself, and will usually be really accommodating. Most of all, don't let your NDs hold you back :)
Keep up with this goblin raccoon (goblicoon?!) on their journey by following them on Instagram at @aedantynnann.